我的失望有增无减,他甚至连自己的困境都无法表达出来,我还能指望他什么?最后他问我:“我怎么做才能让你改变主意?”有人说得对,江山易改,本性难移。我想我已经开始对他失去信心了。
我凝视着他的眼睛,缓慢地回答:“这里有个问题,如果你的回答能让我满意的话,我就改变主意。打个比方,我很想要长在悬崖上的一朵花,而我们都知道摘那朵花会付出生命的代价,你会不会为我去摘?”他说:“我明天给你答案……”听到他的回答,我的希望彻底破灭了。
翌日早上,我醒来时,发现他已经走了,前门餐桌上的牛奶杯下有一张纸条,他用潦草的笔迹这样写道:
“亲爱的,我不会去为你摘那朵花的,但请允许我作一下解释。”这第一行字已经让我心碎。我继续读着,“你用电脑时,总会弄乱程序,然后对着显示器哭,我必须留着手指为你修复程序。
“你总会忘带钥匙,因此我得留着双腿,跑回家为你开门。你热爱旅行,但在陌生的城市总会迷路。我得留着眼睛为你指路。
“每月,当好朋友来临时,你总会痛经。我得留着手掌以抚慰你的腹痛。你喜欢待在屋里,我担心你会得忧郁症。我得留着嘴巴为你讲笑话故事,以驱散你的烦闷无聊。
“你总会盯着电脑,这对眼睛没有好处。我得留着眼睛,当我们都老了的时候,我可以帮你剪指甲,帮你拔掉那些恼人的白头发。这样,我还可以牵着你的手漫步在海边,享受阳光和美丽的沙滩……对你说那些花的色彩就像你洋溢着青春面颊上的红晕……
“因此,亲爱的,除非我相信有人爱你比我更深……否则我绝不会为摘那朵花而死……”我的眼泪滴落在信上,模糊了他的字迹……我继续读下去……
“现在,你知道了我的答案,如果你感到满意,就打开前门,我正拿着你最爱的面包和鲜牛奶站在外面……”
我冲过去,拉开门,看到他一脸焦虑地紧握着牛奶瓶和面包……如今,我确切地知道没有人比他更爱我,于是决定将花的事扔到一边……
这就是生活,这就是爱。当一个人被爱包围时,激动的感觉会逐渐淡化,而人们却忽视了在平淡与单调中所隐藏的真爱。
■ 心灵小语
简单爱,简单生活。真挚的爱情在平淡的生活里会日渐被人遗忘,可是,你有没有想到,这种简单的爱情是经得住时间考验的。你终会发现,原来简单的爱才是最真实的!
A Deep Love without Passion
Anonymous
My husband is an engineer by profession。 I love him for his steady nature; and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders。 Three years of courtship and now; two years into marriage; I would have to admit; that I am getting tired of it。 The reasons of my loving him before; have now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness。 I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it es to a relationship and my feelings。 I yearn for the romantic moments; like a little girl yearning for candy。 My husband; is my plete opposite; his lack of sensitivity; and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love。 One day; I finally decided to tell him my decision; that I wanted a divorce。txt电子书分享平台
平淡的爱(2)
“Why?” he asked; shocked。 “I am tired; there are no reasons for everything in the world! ” I answered。 He kept silent the whole night; seemed to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times。
My feeling of disappointment only increased; here was a man who can’t even express his predicament; what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me; “What can I do to change your mind?” Somebody said it right; it’s hard to change a person’s personality; and I guess; I have started losing faith in him。
Looking deep into his eyes; I slowly answered; “Here is the question; if you can answer and convince my heart; I will change my mind。 Let’s say; I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff; and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death; will you do it for me?” He said; “I will give you my answer tomorrow 。。。” My hopes just sank by listening to his response。
I woke up the next morning to find him gone; and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting; underneath a milk glass; on the dining table near the front door; that goes 。。。
“My dear; I would not pick that flower for you; but please allow me to explain the reasons further。” This first line has already broken my heart。 I continued reading。 “When you use the puter you always mess up the software programs; and you cry in front of the screen; I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs。
“You always leave the house keys behind; thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you。 You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city; I have to save my eyes to show you the way。
“You always have the cramps whenever your‘good friend’ approaches every month; I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy。 You like to stay indoors; and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism。 I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom。
“You always stare at the puter; and that will do nothing good for your eyes; I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old; I can help to clip your nails; and help to remove those annoying white hairs。 So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach; as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand 。。。 and tell you the colour of flowers; just like the color of the glow on your young face 。。。
“Thus; my dear; unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do 。。。 I could not pick that flower yet; and die 。。。” My tears fell on the letter; and blurred the ink of his handwriting 。。。 and as I continued reading 。。。“Now; that you have finished reading my answer; if you are satisfied; please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk 。。。”
I rushed to pull open the door; and saw his anxious face; clutching tightly with his hands; the milk bottle and loaf of bread 。。。 Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does; and I have decided to leave the flower alone 。。。
That’s life; and love。 When one is surrounded by love; the feeling of excitement fades away; and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness。
天底下最真挚的爱情(1)
佚名
我一个朋友正处于热恋之中,她幸福地坦言,恋爱时,天空似乎更蓝了。莫扎特的音乐让她感动得流泪。恋爱使她的体重减轻了15磅,她看起来像个封面女郎。
“我又年轻了!”她兴奋地喊道。
在朋友对她的新欢赞不绝口时,我又重新审视我的旧爱。丈夫斯科特与我结婚快20年了,体重增加了15磅,曾是马拉松选手的他,如今却只能从楼上跑到楼下的医院大厅。他的发际线不断后移。从体形可以看出,他经常超负荷地工作,并且甜食吃得太多。但约会时,餐桌对面的他仍会向我使某种眼色,使我领会其中的含义,结账回家。
当朋友问我“是什么使你们的爱持续至今”时,我毫不犹豫地列举了一些显性因素:责任感、共同的兴趣爱好、无私、身体吸引力,再者就是沟通。当然,还有其他诸多因素:我们会时常寻找乐趣,创造一些欢乐时光。昨天,斯科特把捆报纸的橡皮筋拉下来,然后调皮地弹向我,“战争”由此一发而不可收拾;上周六在杂货店,我们把购物单一分为二,比赛谁先抢购完到达收银台,谁就是胜利者;即便是一起洗碗,我们也要打斗一番。只要在一起,我们就开开心心的。
我与斯科特常会给对方带来惊喜。一次,我回到家,发现门上贴着一张小纸条,上面的内容指引我找到了另一张纸条,接着又是一张,最后指引我走到小储藏室。我打开门,发现斯科特手里捧着“金罐子”(我的蒸煮锅),还拿着一个装着“财富”的大礼包。有时我也会把写给他的纸条贴在镜子上,偷偷地在他的枕头下藏一个小礼物。
我们都理解对方。我理解他为什么一定要和老朋友们出去打篮球,而他也理解我为什么每年都要离开他和孩子,去与姐妹们聚会,连续几天无休止地聊天说笑。
我们同甘共苦。不仅分担忧愁的家事和身为父母的责任,也分享各自的见解。上个月,斯科特参加了一个会议,给我带回一本很厚的历史小说。虽然他比较喜欢惊悚和科幻类小说,但他还是在飞机上把它读完了。他说是为了在我读完后,能和我交流见解。听了这番话,我感动不已。
我们彼此宽容。当我在派对上不顾一切,疯狂地喧闹时,斯科特原谅了我;而当他用我们的一点积蓄炒股炒赔了,向我坦白时,我抱紧他,安慰道:“没关系,钱乃身外之物。”
我们心有灵犀。上周,他回到家,一进门我便从他的神情中看出他心情不好。他逗孩子们玩了一会儿后,我便问他怎么了。他告诉我,一个60岁的老太太中风了。想到病人的丈夫会站在床边爱抚她的手时,他哭了。他实在不忍心告诉病人的丈夫,与他共度了40年的妻子可能永远不能康复!我的眼泪也流了下来,为那可恶的病魔,为这世间维系了40年的婚姻,也为丈夫这么多年来在医院目睹了无数垂死的病人后还能有如此的感动和怜悯!
我们都有坚定的信念。上周四,一个朋友到我家来,向我诉说了她的忧虑,她担心丈夫会逐渐丧失与癌症抗争的勇气和信心。周三,我和一个朋友吃午饭,她正努力使离婚后混乱的生活步入正轨。周四,一个邻居打电话告诉我,她公公得了可怕的老年痴呆症。周五,我一个儿时的玩伴打来长途电话告诉我,他父亲去世了。我放下电话,心里想着一周内竟连续发生这么多令人揪心的悲剧。泪水模糊了我的双眼。我走出家门想做点什么,发现窗外橙色的剑兰花竟然开了,儿子和他的伙伴们玩耍的欢声笑语传到耳边,邻居正在举办婚宴,新娘子穿着缎面有花边修饰的婚纱,把花束抛向欢呼雀跃的朋友。那一夜,我把这一切都讲给丈夫听,人生轮回,悲欢离合总会伴随我们。我们将这样相濡以沫地生活下去。
天底下最真挚的爱情(2)
最后一个原因,我们互相了解。我知道斯科特每晚都会把换洗的衣服扔向洗衣篓,却总也扔不进去;我知道大多数约会他都会迟到,因而会被罚吃剩下的最后一块巧克力。他知道我睡觉时喜欢用枕头把头蒙起来;我时常忘带钥匙,进不了家门,因此我也会自觉地吃掉最后一块巧克力。
我猜想,或许是舒适的感觉让我们的爱延续至今。今天的天空和昨天的一样,并没有变得更蓝,它仍是我们熟悉的颜色;我们也不再有年轻的感觉;我们经历的太多了,而正是这些经历让我们成长,让我们更理性,让我们不断增值,构成了我们的回忆。
我希望我们已经得到了使爱情延续的秘诀。结婚时,斯科特在我的戒指上刻上了罗伯特?布朗宁的诗词:“陪我到老吧!”我们始终恪守着这一誓言。
The Best Kind of Love
Anonymous
I have a friend who is falling in love。 She honestly claims the sky is bluer。 Mozart moves her to tears。 She has lost 15 pounds and looks like a cover girl。
“I’m young again!” she shouts exuberantly1。
As my friend raves on about her new love; I’ve taken a good look at my old one。 My husband of almost 20 years; Scott; has gained 15 pounds。 Once a marathon runner; he now runs only down hospital halls。 His hairline is receding and his body shows the signs of long working hours and too many candy bars。 Yet he can still give me a certain look across a restaurant table and I want to ask for the check and head home。
When my friend asked me, “What will make this love last?” I ran through all the obvious reasons: mitment; shared interests; unselfishness; physical attraction; munication。 Yet there’s mor